You Already Know the Answer.

You Can Decide at Any Time

I say this as somebody who has started over more than once. Actually more than a handful. And I also say this as somebody who has kept herself stuck in situations because she was scared. Because the timing didn't feel right. Because she thought if she just put more time, more effort, more money into it, maybe she'd feel differently about it.

Over the last couple of years, I've really dialled in on removing things from my life that didn't give me life. Changing things that didn't feel right. And that includes stepping out of the comfort zone into the discomfort.

Discomfort though, is temporary. And it's only uncomfortable because it's unfamiliar. You've never done it before. But does that mean you can't do it? It's uncomfortable because you don't know if it's going to work. Nobody knows. The only thing that determines that is your level of effort. And that thing you keep avoiding and prolonging? That's probably the thing you need to do, right now.

Writing a book has been on my mind for over ten years. I've always been a writer in some capacity: contributing to articles, other people's magazines, other people's blogs, sharing advice and thoughts on other platforms. But having my own book? I kept pushing it off.

Who am I? Why would anybody care?

It wasn't until I actually wrote the book that I realized how much I cared about writing it. And I wish I hadn't put it off for so long.

This is also true about your job,  career or professional life.

We think we need to stay in something because we've dedicated so much time, money, and effort into it, like that investment means we're locked in. We’re not though, you can decided at any time that its not for you. You can decide at any time that you want to pivot.

In 2020, I took a job at a local car dealership. I lasted three weeks. The long hours, never knowing what time I'd actually get to go home, sexual harassment and top it of just hating it there, when my first paycheque arrived I realized I was worth so much more than what I was settling for. One morning, I got up, got ready, and just stood in front of the mirror wishing I didn't have to go. And then it hit me: I didn't have to. So I didn't. The next day, I got a full-time remote opportunity from people who actually saw my worth.

Three weeks. That's all it took to know. Well, actually, it probably took about a week and half to know, but 3 weeks to actually do something about it. I didn't owe that place anything more than I'd already given it.

In 2024, my husband and I started talking about the idea of camping in a van. Neither of us had done it before. Here on Vancouver Island though, it's everywhere. So we started having conversations about it.

Then in late 2024, we got some health news from our GP about my husband. It was scary. It left us in limbo about moving forward on the van. For about six months, we were in this in-between space, still talking about it, but not knowing if we could do it.

Then we got the green light.

We walked out of that doctor's appointment and made the decision: we're doing it. A couple of weeks later, he bought the van. Did some of the upgrades himself so we could use it in the meantime, while he worked toward getting it professionally built out because he had a vision.

Fast forward to now, June 2026. The build is done. It looks exactly like what he had in his head. Everything he wanted. And next week, we take it out for the first time.

Some people will understand. Some people won't agree with you. But that's usually because they couldn't do it themselves or wouldn't but does that mean you can't?

I was recently talking to someone about this, telling them the van was finished, that we couldn't wait to use it. And this person said, what a dream. I wish I could do that. That's my ultimate dream. And I thought, that's interesting, because this person could do it. Has the means. No kids. Financially set. Could absolutely do it probably over and over again.

But he thinks he needs to stay where he is. Keep doing what he's been doing.

Here I am, living what he calls his dream. And I never saw it that way. I never saw it as luck, or some unattainable thing. We made a plan and we fulfilled it. We decided what we wanted and we did it. 

That's it.

Anybody can do that. Whether you have the means right now, or you're working toward it, you can do it. But we tell ourselves we can't.

Because of X, Y, Z.

Because of our current circumstances.

Because of a decision we made that we feel we need to honour forever.

But…we don't.

Any decision you make today, you can change tomorrow.

I decided to become a real estate agent in 2022 and I decided not to be one in 2026. When I went into it, I honestly knew I probably wouldn't do it forever as I couldn't see myself in that role long term. At first I thought maybe. And then the more I did it, the more I knew there needed to be an exit. So eventually, when it felt like time, I made a different decision. And that decision was freeing.

At any time, you can decide that you no longer want to do what you're doing.

That's not failure. That’s trusting yourself and believing you deserve so much more than you’re allowing yourself to have.