The Sky is Blue AND Pink - It Just Depends on Where You Are Standing.
I say the sky is blue. From where you are standing, you say it's pink. Neither are wrong and both bring a different perspective. My reality confirms its blue, and yours is pink.
I share that I loved the movie The Notebook, you disagree and say it was the worst.
When I was a Realtor, I seen this all the time. Someone’s dream home is someone else’s nightmare. Same house, both wanting to buy but both come in with a different view.
I loved the ACOTAR book series, you can’t understand why anyone would.
Before you commit to reading a certain book, you look at the reviews and allow other people’s opinions and perspectives to decide if you’ll read it or not. One person gave it a 1 star and another, 5 stars. Both read the same book, same story and same ending, yet, both have a completely different response. Which one do you trust? Which one is right? Both? Neither?
The only way to actually know, is to read it yourself and form your own opinion.
My reality is different from yours and it doesn’t make it wrong. Both are true for us. I’m not sure why these different perspectives often then engage in disagreements, and often frustration. We’re trying to convince the other person to see it from where we’re standing, but its never going to be the same. We respond differently, and we’re all wired differently.
Who are we to convince someone that their reality doesn’t exist? We don’t need to accept it or even believe it but its not for us to invalidate it.
This can be said for two siblings who grew up in the same house, each will experience a different version of what it felt like and share a different experience. One can say their childhood was good and the other can say how traumatic it was for them. Neither sibling is lying, or being dramatic or dismissive. They are reporting on an experience that they had, in their world.
Why do we feel its necessary to convince the other person otherwise? Does it come from a place of wanting to be validated? If you can see it the way I do, then my reality is real and it must be right. In my experience though, the need for that confirmation is a form of insecurity. Somebody else’s reality shouldn’t cancel out yours. The sky can be blue and pink at the same time, depending on where you’re standing. Instead of spending your time and energy arguing about what colour it is, maybe it should act as an invitation to be curious about the view from where the other person is.
We don’t have to agree, and actually we don’t even need to accept somebody else's viewpoint but I believe we just have to be willing to let each other’s truth exist.
